A journey to radical self-love

What if you didn’t need Bali to find yourself?

THIS IS HOW YOU LOVE HER
a memoir about coming home to yourself
Out now Abrams Press
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“Candid, emotionally direct, and sharply funny… It will especially resonate with women grappling with people-pleasing, perfectionism, and the urge to be chosen at the expense of being known.”
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Praise

Readers are coming home.

“An honest and beautiful guide to finding the truth that will always lead you home.”
Tembi Locke
New York Times bestselling author of From Scratch
“Traci offers a compelling framework for embarking on an intentional journey to know more of ourselves. This Is How You Love Her couldn’t be more timely, more needed for our community.”
Amber Stevens West
Actress
“We need Traci’s voice in the world! As a creator, I know how vital it is to speak directly about the female experience and to offer opportunities for connection. I for one can’t wait to share her book.”
Lennon Parham
Writer, cocreator and costar of Playing House and Best Friends Forever
“As Black women, oftentimes we are left out of the self-discovery narratives because we’re looked at as tough and ‘can figure anything out,’ but we so desperately need a book that shows us it’s OK to keep choosing ourselves, over and over again. Traci is the perfect author to show us through her story.”
Alex Hill
Creator and host, @JustAddHotSauce
“An engaging, interactive, and thought-provoking read.”
The Nerds of Color
On tour

From SiriusXM and FOX to packed bookstores.

A room full of readers holding This Is How You Love Her with Traci at Kindred Stories
Traci laughing with her book at a bookstore signing, stacks of This Is How You Love Her in front of her Traci reading from This Is How You Love Her at Kindred Stories Traci in conversation before a packed bookstore audience Traci in conversation with Chelsea Edwards for Chattin with Chelsea on FOX Traci laughing with a reader at the signing table at Kindred Stories Bevy Smith holding This Is How You Love Her with Traci at SiriusXM
Where I’ll be
8OCT
Citizen RelationsKeynote for World Mental Health Day · Private event
KEYNOTE
24OCT
Malibu, CAWriting retreat · Details coming soon
RETREAT
TBASOON
Los Angeles, CAA Night of Poetry · New date coming soon
BOOK TOUR
For fans of memoir, self-help and journaling

This book explores

01

Perfection

Unlearning the belief that you’re not allowed to get it wrong.

02

Body autonomy

Reclaiming your body and learning to be present in your own skin.

03

Boundaries

Setting limits with the people you love most, even when it means risking the relationship.

04

Control

Releasing the need to manage everyone’s perception and trusting yourself to just be.

“I didn’t find myself in one big revelation. I found myself in hundreds of little answers.”
About the author

Traci Saulsberry is a communications executive, keynote speaker and writer. At twenty-seven, she became one of the youngest Black executives at NBC, and she later built and led the communications team at Peacock. Today she hosts and narrates for Calm, teaches at Syracuse University’s Newhouse School and speaks to audiences about identity, self-worth and defining your own story.

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