What if you didn’t need Bali to find yourself?

THIS IS HOW YOU LOVE HER

A memoir about coming home to yourself

AVAILABLE AUGUST 4, 2026 FROM ABRAMS PRESS

EARLY PRAISE

Saulsberry debuts with a wryly funny memoir about her search for self-acceptance. Saulsberry’s voice is the draw here: she’s candid, emotionally direct, and sharply funny

―Publishers Weekly


An honest and beautiful guide to finding the truth that will always lead you home.

―Tembi Locke, New York Times bestselling author of From Scratch

An engaging, interactive, and thought-provoking read.

―The Nerds of Color